Trauma and Neurodivergent Coach

Contract with Saviour Part

I've create a New Contract for Living, between my adult self and the part of me who believes she must carry the world’s pain and never rest.

🌿 New Contract for Living

Between: Me (the adult who sees the whole picture now) And: You (the young one who learned that survival meant never putting yourself first)

I. Acknowledgment of the Past

You were right: No one else seemed to be paying attention. You saw suffering, and you stepped up. Even as a child. You were so small, and yet you felt responsible for so much.

That should never have been your job. I see that now. You were never meant to carry all of that.

II. What I Promise You Now

  1. You don’t have to earn your place by being useful. You are loved. You are worthy. Even when you rest. Even when you play.

  2. I will listen to you — not obey you blindly. You’re allowed to express fear, guilt, or urgency — and I’ll hold those feelings tenderly, but I’ll also remind you: we’re not in danger anymore.

  3. I will take care of the body we share. We will eat when we’re hungry, rest when we’re tired, and let joy in — even when others are suffering — because that is how we stay strong and sane.

  4. We will care for others — but never at the cost of abandoning you. Love will guide our choices. But martyrdom is no longer the goal. We help others best when we are grounded, joyful, and honest.

  5. Play, laughter, pleasure, and curiosity are not betrayals — they are medicine. And you, sweet one, get to have them too. You’re not too old. It’s not too late. You get to be a child again, in ways you never could before.

III. What I Ask From You

  1. When you feel scared or guilty because we’re resting or playing — talk to me instead of taking over. Let me know what you’re afraid of. Let me hold that.

  2. Trust me when I say: We are not abandoning our values. We’re expanding them. We’re learning to live by them in ways that include you — not exclude you.

  3. Let’s build a life where both giving and receiving are sacred. You don’t have to pick one.

IV. Final Blessing

From now on, we will walk together.

No one will be left behind.

You don’t have to prove anything anymore.